College is a time for expanding your world. You are learning new things, meeting new friends, and chances are, you are living away from home for the first time. Yes, your education should be your top priority, but all work and no play is not healthy either. You could have been the biggest player in high school or you may have had no social life. In either case, the stakes are raised once you hit college. Things that impressed your high school classmates are not necessarily what will be what will impress people at the college level. So here are some tips on how to amp up your social, and your sex life, in college.
The first thing you need to do is socialize! If you don’t meet people, you are not going to have sex, simple as that. You need to figure out what level of commitment you are willing to put into a relationship. Are you looking for a full time, serious relationship, or are you looking for a one night stand. Maybe it is somewhere in between. Once you know what you are looking for, here are some tips for finding what you are looking for.
If you are looking for a relationship, you may want to look around your classes, talk to other students taking your courses. Form a study group. If you want to keep school separate, you may want to join a campus group of some kind. There you will find students who have the same interests as you. Plus, the campus group may meet at a time that would allow you to ask someone to go for coffee after the meeting. Volunteer at a local shelter or food kitchen. Get involved in community events or activities. This will expand your social circle outside of the college setting and allow you to meet local people opening up a whole new social avenue. Chances are if you meet someone in one of these venues, you are going to meet someone who shares many of your intrinsic qualities.
If you don’t want a relationship, there is nothing wrong with that at all. You may not have the time to devote to a partner, or you may not want the strings and you want to have fun before you settle down. It is time to hit the party scene. Social events on campus, campus pubs and local bars are the ideal locale to hook up. Keep an ear to the ground for parties that you can go to and try to get to know the party crowd. They will keep you informed on where and when the happening events are taking place. If you go off campus, you are going to meet a wide range of people who are looking for the same thing.
Of course, all of this advice needs to be taken keeping something in mind. Sex has to be both consensual and safe. Birth Control is not going to protect you against STD’s. Do not have unprotected sex. Your hour of passion could leave you with a life changing disease. Some diseases have no cure, and you will have them for the rest of your life. Don’t ruin your future.
Don’t forget that just because you are looking for a certain thing doesn’t mean the people you are meeting are looking for the same thing. Make sure you go into every situation with your eyes wide open so you don’t end up getting hurt. The last thing you need is to have your social life affect your grades.
College is about more than setting the foundation for your adult life professionally, it also is a time to develop your own personality. Have fun! But be safe, and be smart. Don’t compromise your future for the sake of one moment of pleasure.